5 Practices for
Cycle Breakers
In all families, there is usually at least one cycle breaker.
Are you the cycle breaker of your family?
The cycle breaker is the one who awakens and commits to breaking cycles of inherited family trauma, dysfunction, or chaos.
Chances are if you're reading this, in your family system, the cycle breaker is you.
As a cycle breaker, these are the top 5 practices that have truly helped me transform my life from the inside out.
They’ve supported me in healing old patterns, finding clarity, and stepping into my power—day by day, layer by layer.
1. Spiritual Guidance
Being the outlier in your family—the cycle breaker, the truth-teller, the one who’s choosing a different path—can feel incredibly confusing and lonely at times. I know that feeling well.
What’s helped me stay grounded (and sane!) is my connection to Divine Guidance. For me, finding my beloved Divine Mother has been life changing. She’s my anchor, my mirror, and my deepest sense of safety.
This kind of spiritual connection can make all the difference. It reminds you that you’re never truly alone. That you are deeply loved and supported—always.
Practice: Each morning, I sit for a few quiet minutes, hand on heart and womb, and whisper this prayer:
“Mother, love, I am with you as I know you are with me. Today I choose you. I choose to walk with you, to trust in your guidance. I place each foot within your footprint that goes before me. And if there is a moment where I do not feel you, Mother, and love in me as I am in you, I pause and I find that place within myself to reach out again with all the tenderness that I hold within. To reach out to you, knowing that you are always reaching out to me. So be it.”
Feel free to use this prayer—or let it inspire your own.
Create your own prayer by sitting quietly, placing a hand on your body, and letting the words come from your heart. It doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to be yours.
Let this be your reminder: you are never walking alone.
If you want to meet Divine Mother and receive her support, click here.
2. Inner Child Work
This is where it all begins. Inner child work is the foundation of everything I've done as a cycle breaker. It’s what helped me shift from blame to radical self-responsibility, from survival to empowerment.
When you meet and love your inner child—the part of you that still holds old wounds and outdated beliefs—you begin to break the cycles from the inside out.
Practice: Set aside 10 minutes this week to write a letter to Little You. Ask her what she needs. Let her speak. Let her be seen. To support you with this, download my Free Inner Child Reconnection Guide Here. And if you’re ready for deeper support, you can also book a 1:1 session with me.
3. Family Constellation Therapy (FCT)
FCT helps you uncover how ancestral trauma and unresolved family dynamics may still be affecting you today—and then gently restore balance to the system.
I’ve done this work over and over again, and it’s helped me see my family with more compassion, while releasing what was never mine to carry.
Practice: Choose one ancestor who comes to mind—maybe someone you’ve felt emotionally tied to or energetically burdened by. Light a candle, take a deep breath, and say aloud:
“I see your pain. I honor your path. And I release what is not mine to carry.”
Let the words settle in your body. Breathe. Repeat if needed.
If you want to go deeper, I highly recommend reading It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn. It beautifully explains how inherited trauma can shape our lives—and how we can begin to free ourselves from it.
Inside Homecoming (my online inner child course), students experience two live Family Constellation sessions led by the brilliant Peggy Vivas. Click here to join the waitlist!
4. Setting Boundaries
Let’s be real—this one isn’t always easy. But it’s essential. As a cycle breaker, you’ll likely be called to set boundaries in places where there never were any. And that can be uncomfortable.
But rewriting unhealthy dynamics and claiming your space is part of the process. You’re allowed to say no. You’re allowed to choose you.
Practice: This week, choose one thing you’re not available for anymore—and lovingly communicate it or take action around it. If you want guidance and tools, check out my Fempowering Boundaries Workshop.
5. Cyclical Living
As a cycle breaker, I knew I couldn’t keep living in a way that drained me. Cyclical living became my liberation—a way of reclaiming the rhythms that patriarchy taught us to ignore. It helped me rewrite the story of what it means to be a woman in her power. Cyclical living has helped me heal trauma, reconnect with my feminine lineage, and deepen the relationship between my body, mind, and soul.
Practice: At the start of each week, check in with your menstrual or energetic cycle. Ask yourself: Where am I right now? Let that guide your energy, your boundaries, and your priorities. Here's a quick map:
Inner Spring (Follicular Phase) – Creativity, planning, fresh energy
Inner Summer (Ovulation Phase) – Visibility, action, collaboration
Inner Autumn (Luteal Phase) – Reflection, discernment, completion
Inner Winter (Menstrual Phase) – Rest, retreat, release
To support this practice, download my Free Cyclical Living Guide Here.
If you’re ready to start living in rhythm with your cycle (or energetic flow), I invite you to join my Cyclical Living Masterclass—a guided experience that will teach you how to reclaim your womb wisdom, align with your natural rhythm, and move through life with more flow, clarity, and power.
One last thing…
Not everyone will understand your healing path. And that’s okay.
You’re not here to wake anyone else up—you’re here to be in alignment with your own soul. That’s the greatest service you can offer the world.
So take your time. Be gentle with yourself. And know that every step you take toward your healing is a step toward collective liberation, too.