7 ways to begin healing the Mother Wound
Whether you have had a "healthy" or turbulent relationship with your mom, more than likely, you have felt the pain that she carries.
This pain is the trauma passed down from generation to generation that profoundly impacts your life.
These are the wounds your mother and grandmothers before you failed to heal.
When left unresolved, you continue to pass them, and finally, your children repeat the cycle, harming their children and their children's children with centuries of unresolved pain.
But the good news is that you can STOP the cycle! Otherwise, you remain a prisoner of your mother’s wounding.
Repairing your relationship with your mom or caregiver, even if it only means holding her differently in your heart, could create a massive shift in your life. Healing the Mother's Wound doesn't always mean we get the relationship we've yearned for with our human mothers.
It can often mean you will set better boundaries, establish healthier relationships, care for your needs, develop empathy for others, trust life more, and feel more comfortable in your skin.
When I acknowledged the mother wound in me, I could see my mother, her inner child, and our female lineage through the eyes of compassion. This allowed me to begin to transform the trauma that was disempowering me in my life.
If you have any of these tendencies...
Carry a lot of shame or guilt
Compare yourself to others
Avoid conflict
Lack self-esteem
Be a people-pleaser
Struggle to say "no."
Feel "not good enough."
Be depressed or anxious
Lack of focus and drive
Ignore or suppress emotions
Be a super-achiever and do everything on your own
Cling to a relationship
Give up your power to others
Repeat harmful patterns in relationships
Feel highly reactive and easily triggered by life and others
Have financial blocks
It's a clear sign of the healing work that needs to happen to your inner child concerning your mother's wound.
HOW CAN I BEGIN TO HEAL THE MOTHER WOUND?
Practice self-care- Taking care of your physical and emotional needs is essential for managing the impact of childhood and generational trauma. This can include getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. In the journey of inner transformation, self-care needs to become a non-negotiable.
Seek support- Whether it’s talking to a friend, connecting with a support group, seeing a therapist, or booking one of my 1:1 private sessions, reaching out for support can help you feel less alone and more understood.
Practice mindfulness- Mindfulness can help you stay present and connected to your emotions without being overwhelmed by them. Try simple practices like deep breathing, bee breath (Bhramari Pranayama), meditation, or yoga nidra to help regulate your emotions and nervous system.
Reconnect with your Inner Child- The mother wound isn’t about blaming our mothers—it’s about acknowledging the unmet needs, emotional pain, or patterns of disconnection that began in that earliest bond. It often shows up as people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-abandonment, or feeling unworthy of love and rest. Inner child work helps you gently reconnect with the part of you that first felt that pain.
It allows you to:Identify what your younger self needed but didn’t receive
Offer yourself the validation, nurturance, and presence that may have been missing
Break the cycle of self-silencing, overgiving, or emotional suppression
Rewire your nervous system to feel safe receiving love, care, and support
By learning how to mother yourself—with compassion, boundaries, and consistency—you begin to release the expectation that someone else will come in and make it right. You become the one you’ve been waiting for.
This is where true healing begins—not by erasing the past, but by meeting Little You in the present and giving her what she needed all along. Click here to meditate and reconnect with your inner child!
Learn How to Set Boundaries- Boundaries allow you to express yourself genuinely and let others know when, where, or how you don't feel comfortable or safe. Learning to set healthy boundaries is the ideal opportunity to begin healing your inner child. Rewriting your unhealthy boundaries into empowering ones is essential if you want to transform the mother wound because you hold the power to choose differently and honor your ancestors from a place of empowerment. I invite you to join my Fempowering Boundaries Workshop—a guided space to explore, redefine, and embody boundaries that support the life you’re here to live.
Reclaim your Womb Power- The Mother Wound is also a product of patriarchy. On a personal level, it is the mother’s projection of her unhealed wounds onto the daughter. And on the collective level, it is the result of generations of female oppression. One of the most significant and unacknowledged oppressions is the shame and stigma of a woman's menstrual cycle and womb power. Educating yourself about your cycle and womb and implementing Cyclical Living is the ultimate bio-hack to harness your energy, productivity, and fempower. And the fastest way to transform the patriarchal shame/cultural mother wound you carry. Click here to learn more.
Practice self-compassion. Be kind and gentle with yourself as you navigate the impact of childhood and generational trauma on your emotional responses. You are doing the best you can with the tools you have, and healing takes time.
Remember, healing from childhood and generational traumatic stress is a journey; no one-size-fits-all solution exists. Finding the proper support, education, and resources can help you learn how to recognize and manage your triggers, regulate your emotions, and heal from the past.
